jacklemmonpie

~S W A P S~ (will remove name when received)

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EricB - 1 classic movies postcard

marineko - 1 non tourist postcard

~TAGS~

Won't be doing these until I've gotten a few swaps done. As in old ones. And angel'ing.

~ACTUAL PERSONAL INFO ABOUT ME~

My name is Bonster (well, Bonnie, but I go by Bonster and have since college when I got the nickname). I'm 36, and I live in Alberta, Canada. I'm originally from Oklahoma. I'm married to a beautiful, wonderful woman who has provided me stability and happiness, and I strive to do the same. We got married October 13, 2017.

I have no pets currently, but plan on getting a dog at some point; they're my fave animals.

I've been diagnosed with depression and anxiety. Was in therapy for 6 months, but because of the move to Canada, had to discontinue. Will pick it back up when we have the appropriate insurance. And honestly, if anyone ever feels like talking about their own issues, I'm a good listener, and I know how important it is sometimes just to vent. So feel free to message me if you need.

I mostly spend time on the internet. Mostly games on Steam (like idle games, Stardew Valley, RimWorld, etc.), Flight Rising (dragon pet site, where I actually met my wife a couple years ago), and binge-watching (true crime mostly anymore, but I'm a fan of lots of shows and movies).

I'm bisexual (after years of going 'oh no, i have to choose one way', and dealing with internalized biphobia. I'm about a 4/4.5 on the Kinsey scale, as I do prefer women, but the amount of celeb boy crushes so overweighed fully identifying as lesbian lol), feminist (the gender binary rather irritates me as i think as a human you can like/gravitate toward whatever you want as long as you don't hurt/harm someone non-consensually, whether it's traditional or non-traditional), pro-choice (I've never had to make this decision, but I sure as heck don't judge those who have), not religious (but I'm spiritual in the way that I think the universe and life is, at heart, balanced/works at balancing).

I will also say that it would be very hard for me, as someone a bit more brown than plain white, and a bisexual, to be friends with someone who supports the current US administration. Acquaintances heck yes, but if you hope for a good pen friend connection, I'm so sorry, I'm too broken about it.

A ~ argyle, aliens, ACEOs/ATCs, address labels (my handwriting is loool, so these are always wanted)

B ~ badass women, butterflies, blue things, bookmarks, bad/dad jokes

C ~ cthulhu, citric acid, clovers, comets, cookies, crams

D ~ dogs, dolphins, die-cut anything, dark chocolate, dell puzzle books, decos

E ~ envelopes (especially handmade ones, but any are fantastic), etsy

F ~ faeries, fashion, flowers (the stranger the better), fbs, frames

G ~ galaxies, grumpy characters (Badtz-Maru, Grumpy Bear, Grumpy, Oscar the Grouch, Grumpy Cat, Eeyore, et cetera), green (color), gel pens (of all colors), goddesses

H ~ horror, halloween, hawaiian shirts, hippies, Hello Kitty

I ~ icicles

J ~ jigsaws

K ~ koalas

L ~ lions, lemons, llamas

M ~ mysteries (Miss Marple, esp.)

N ~ notepads

O ~ outer space, owls, orange (color)

P ~ postcards (odder the better but anything listed here in the abc's is groovy; naked or in an envie also good), puppies, prismatic things, paper ephemera, palm trees, planets, polar bears, panda bears, penguins, plaid, pickles (sour not sweet), puns, polka dots, penny press puzzle books

Q ~ quizzes

R ~ rainbows, robots

S ~ science fiction, shiny/sparkly anything, stickers (less so reward/teacher ones tho), stationery, slams, stars/sun, spooky/scary things, shabby chic, silver (the color), salty things, scarves, sour candy, skulls (not sugar ones)

T ~ turtles, tea, true crime, tim holtz

U ~ unicorns, ugly sweaters, used stamps

V ~ VINTAGE, violet things, variety puzzle books, volcanoes

W ~ washi, wolves, waterfalls, whales

X ~ x-slips (sticker related especially)

Y ~

Z ~ zombies

I'm allergic to latex. Also cats, but only if I am in skin to skin contact or around the cat for half hour or more. So I'm okay with stuff sent from homes with cats, as long as you don't send the cats themselves lol.

Anything clowns, reward stickers, Elmo, Bratz, Tweety, overly religious.

Scents: patchouli, peach, or overly perfumed.

Flavors: green apple, peach, banana, ear wax xD

I'm not a fan of cultural appropriation, so I'd prefer not to get 'boho' items that are actually native culture (I'm Native, so this one really makes me uncomfortable). And I'd rather not receive sugar skulls things, unless it is specifically your culture, and you want to share your experience. Also things of the Romani people and g-word related (g-word is a slur).

Transformers the Movie (1986), Avengers, Lawrence of Arabia, Bridget Jones' Diary, Cold Comfort Farm, The Hours, National Treasure, The Chronicles of Narnia: The Lion, The Witch, and The Wardrobe, Enchanted, Mammoth, Pirates of the Caribbean (all), Wayne's World, Shaun of the Dead, Wall-e, 28 Days Later, Hostel, Pride & Prejudice (FIRTH), Contact, But I'm a Cheerleader, Bill & Ted's Bogus Journey, Day of the Dead (original), The Descent, Dog Soldiers, Spider-Man (the first one mostly), Harold and Kumar Go to White Castle

Disney: Wall-e, Mulan, Dumbo, Beauty & the Beast, Robin Hood (OO-DA-LA-LEH, THAT'S WHAT THE FOX SAYS), Fantasia, Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, Aladdin, The Incredibles

Jack Lemmon, Henry Fonda, Julianne Moore, Nicole Kidman, Idris Elba, Jennifer Lawrence, Meryl Streep, James McAvoy, Damian Lewis, Peter O'Toole, Viggo Mortensen, Emily Blunt, Ioan Gruffudd, Kiefer Sutherland, Guy Pearce, Rachel Nichols, Bruce Campbell, Colm Meaney, Katharine Hepburn, Andre Braugher, Renee O'Connor, Simon Pegg, Barbara Stanwyck, Rufus Sewell, David Hewlett, Gary Cole, Nathan Fillion, Clea Duvall, Hugh Jackman, Summer Glau, Avery Brooks, Patrick Stewart, Armin Shimerman, Mary Lynn Rajskub, Michael Palin, Ted Raimi, Alexander Siddig, Joel Gretsch, Hudson Leick, Nana Visitor, Kim Raver, Dina Meyer, Michael Shanks

anything by Octavia E. Butler, The Dresden Files by Jim Butcher, Harry Potter by JKR, the Dune series by Frank Herbert, The Silmarillion by JRR Tolkien, the Newford books by Charles de Lint, the Monkeewrench series by PJ Tracy, the Narnia books by CS Lewis, Neverness by David Zindell, I Wonder As I Wander by Langston Hughes, anything by Isaac Asimov, CUSP by Robert Metzger, anything by Neal Asher, anything by Alice Walker, Green River Running Red by Ann Rule

Current top faves are true crime stuff from Investigation Discovery.

Alphabetical other faves from the past: 24, The 4400, Alias, Angel, Aqua Teen Hunger Force, Archer, Battlestar Galactica (2003), Bletchley Circle, Bomb Girls, Brooklyn 99, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Carnivale, Chuck, Cold Case, Criminal Minds, Dead Like Me, Deadwood, Dexter, Doctor Who (2005), Dragon Ball Z, Elementary, Everwood, Family Guy, Farscape, Firefly, Friday Night Lights, Ghost Hunters, Harvey Birdman: Attorney at Law, Hemlock Grove, Homicide: Life on the Street, Horatio Hornblower, In Plain Sight, It's Always Sunny In Philadelphia, Jackass, Jeopardy, The L Word, Lie to Me, Lost Girl, Kids in the Hall, La Femme Nikita, Luther, Midsomer Murders, Miss Marple, Once Upon A Time, Orange Is the New Black, Oz, Pawn Stars, Psych, Rome, Sons of Anarchy, Star Trek (DS9 first and foremost, TNG, and TOS and Voyager as well), Stargate Atlantis and SG-1, Supernatural, True Blood, Twin Peaks, Viva la Bam, The West Wing, The Wire, World's Dumbest, Xena: Warrior Princess

U2, One Direction, Halsey, Lady Gaga, Dixie Chicks, Flogging Molly, Butch Walker, Weezer, Erasure, New Order, Sarah McLachlan, Lana Del Rey, Brandi Carlile, Lorde, Chvrches, Adele, Ke$ha, Goldfrapp, Mumford & Sons, The Cranberries, Yann Tiersen, Clint Mansell, Hans Zimmer

Brian Froud, Katherine Ace, Basquiat, Claude Monet, Wangechi Mutu, Susan Dorf, Edward Hopper, Lorna Simpson, Julie Mehretu

June 23, 2018 Got married last October, and have been stressing about not being able to stay permanently in Canada with my wife, but all that has come to an end, as I'm applying for Permanent Residency this coming month!

I'd like to start swapping again. And letter writing. I'm clearly a risk of not reciprocating until I've got literally hundreds under my belt, so I appreciate anyone not wanting to swap with me. The facts are well documented. But I'd also love another chance to engage in this great community. I'd rather do swaps and letters than play video games all day.

October 2017: Yikes. How do I make up for my past swapping fails? Where do I even begin? Do I contact folks? Do I RAK or angel for the next er, few years? Someone let me know :/

Swapped years ago. Last time was on here, was 6 years ago (2008). 0_0

And I own that I flaked like whoa. deep breath No excuses (partially because I don't remember what happened to made me drop off swapping earth, but mostly because there is no excuse great enough to just ditch).

.February 26, 2014,
Bad week last week. Stress from finances, my forgetting to take my fluoxetine, can't go to clinic until May so will run out anyway, and feb 22, 2002 was when my dad died, so every year, I try to forget how bad it gets for me and mom, but this year especially was bad.
I'll send out swaps I owe by Saturday. Please, Please, Please rate me a 3. I've disappointed myself and, pretty sure, this community. And I'm embarrassed and guilty about it, so it's kinda triggery at the moment.